Not long ago, a high school principal shared with me about a surprising experience: students were becoming more defiant, teachers more frustrated, and academic performance was steadily declining.
The school had strict rules, punishments for bad behavior, and a system designed to maintain order. Yet, something was loudily missing.
This sounds like an isolated case until you look around, listen more and notice that today’s school terrain is far much slippery than it was five years ago. Across many schools, there’s a growing struggle to maintain discipline.
Traditional methods such as suspensions and implementation of strict rules seem to have lost their effectiveness.
But what if the problem isn’t the students, but the culture we create around them? What if discipline in today’s schools demands more than enforcing rules, calling for a mindset shift, and we are yet to realize it?
Where Did Discipline Go?
Many schools today are battling indiscipline: disrespect toward teachers, lack of responsibility in academic work, regular arson, and even peer conflicts.
The results? Poor learning outcomes, low morale among teachers, and a school environment that feels more like a battlefield than a place of growth.
What’s causing this? Some blame social media, others point to changing family dynamics, and many argue that students simply “aren’t like they used to be”.
The more we drift from reality and blame external factors, the more we hinder ourselves from confronting and solving the menace.
The truth is, students respond to the environment they’re placed in. If we want better behavior, we must create a better culture.
Culture Over Rules
Discipline isn’t just about controlling behavior; it’s about building character. A school that thrives on respect and responsibility doesn’t need to rely on constant punishment—it creates an environment where students naturally uphold these values.
Consider a school that replaced its rigid discipline policies with student mentorship programs, leadership opportunities, and a strong emphasis on mutual respect. The results? Fewer cases of misconduct, improved academic performance, and stronger teacher-student relationships.
This works because culture shapes behavior.
When students see respect being modeled, when responsibility is rewarded rather than demanded, and when they are given ownership of their actions, discipline becomes self-driven rather than enforced.
Practical Solutions
Lead by Example – Students mirror what they see. If teachers and school leaders walk away from reactive discipline (punishment after bad behavior) to proactive reinforcement model of respect and responsibility, students will naturally follow. If society will embrace discipline at home, work and everywhere, the young learners will take it as the norm and nurture it.
Rethink School Policies – Rules should guide, not always punish. Schools should shift to teaching and encouraging good behavior rather than using rules to scare and intimidate.
Student Ownership – Giving students leadership roles—prefects, peer mentors, club leaders—instills responsibility. They realize they don’t have the luxury of leading carefree lives and that builds their mindset and approach to responsible living.
Encourage Dialogue – Many discipline issues stem from frustration and a lack of communication. Every school desiring peace should create spaces for open discussions, mentorship programs, and teacher-student dialogue sessions.
Reward Good Behavior – Instead of only punishing negative behavior, schools should celebrate positive actions with recognition and incentives.
Beyond the Classroom
A school that instills respect and responsibility doesn’t just create well-behaved students; it produces future leaders.
Graduates from such institutions carry these values into their workplaces, communities, and families.
If we want a generation of ethical leaders, responsible citizens, and lifelong learners, it starts with what we teach them in school—not just in academics but in character.
Imagine a country where respect and responsibility are ingrained in young people from an early age.
Crime rates would drop, workplaces would thrive, and communities would be built on trust and collaboration.
Schools are not just educational institutions; they are the training grounds for the future of our societies.
Conclusively, the problem of indiscipline in schools is real, but so is the solution. Instead of focusing solely on enforcing rules, we must work on cultivating a culture where respect and responsibility are lived values.
This change doesn’t start with students; it starts with us—educators, parents, and school leaders.
If we want to see better discipline, we must build better environments. We must create schools where respect is the norm, responsibility is expected, and students are empowered to be their best.
Because when discipline is a choice, not a demand, students don’t just follow rules, they rise to their potential.
______________________ Benvictor Makau is a visionary leader, digiprepreneur, and change-maker with a global perspective. As the Founder and CEO of Benmak Virtual Assistants (www.benmakva.com), he leads a team of virtual experts in supporting busy professionals and organizations to thrive by delivering world-class virtual assistance and digital marketing solutions. He also serves as the Assistant Director of The Trueness Project, a philanthropic organization transforming lives globally through philanthropy in education, leadership mentorship, and peace promotion. A highly-experienced journalist and editor, his work is rooted in a profound belief in intentional empowerment. Beyond his organizational roles, Benvictor is an accomplished bestselling author, storyteller, and content strategist. He has reviewed and edited numerous publications, further amplifying his voice in the global thought leadership arena. Through his journey, Benvictor inspires others to embrace purpose-driven leadership and navigate the complexities of the modern world with integrity and determination. His contact: benvictorisaac@gmail.com.